Oh this is somewhere new!

Mixing up the location is great! Your mind and body are use to the familiar. The element of a new surrounding and environment can add a bit of a rush when shagging somewhere new! We've tried friends houses, bathrooms, and in our truck when driving long distances. It just adds to the adventure. I am not just saying going out of town, but that seems to work too. Mix it up though and don't get into a routine. I use to give my husband a bj or hand job when we drove back and forth between cities for a while but then he seemed to always expect it, it wasn't as fun. So every now and then I'll throw it in for a surprise drive. Be adventurous!

Lingerie

Okay so I am the kind of girl that enjoys putting on a sexy outfit. It helps get me in the mood. If I'm dressed the part then i will feel good about my body. I am not saying I have to be dressed up all the time but it definitely can get me more excited then if i was wearing some cotton pajamas. Now my husband typically will say just be naked, and he enjoys this so I do try to mix it up for him. You always have to do a give and take with these things. I like mixing up they type of lingerie sometimes I go girly and pink and then I mix it up to a hunter camouflage piece. He tends to like it when I mix up to, but again my guy always just asks for me to be naked, it's the give and take peeps.

Lube, love it or hate it?

Okay so for a while since I wasn't able to sexually excite myself I would complain to my husband I felt too dry down there. Since for women it can be harder to enjoy sex if your not mentally involved because you don't reach that excitement that opens your glands that makes you more wet down there. My husband would tell me you I was wet down there but I didn't feel wet enough to make myself feel comfortable during sex. So we purchased some different lubes and tried them out. During that time of discomfort the lube definitely helped me. The flavored lubes are very sticky however and I would only use those during oral sex. So even in your twenties lube can be helpful for those times when you just aren't feeling as wet. Sometimes I found it good to use when trying to warm myself up as well, especially with toys.

Struggle of Power in the bedroom

So the other day when I woke up I decided to surprise my husband with a good morning bj. While I stared going down on him he grabs my head and starts to motion what he wanted me to do. Of course being it change of seasons I typically wake up with the sniffles. I started to not be able to control my breaths so I moved his hands. He took this as a sign of I don't want your help and I want to be in control. Since we used no communication during all of this both of us became upset and removed ourselves from one another all over a lack of communication and struggle over control.

This could have easily been avoided if i would have jut said something to my husband. Why isn't it appropriate to talk and communicate while conducting a sexual act? Everyone always says you need to communicate in the bedroom but instead or instinctive actions seem to come out first before our words. My husband and I of course talked about this later in the day and we did make up, don't worry. So the lesson here is to communicate at all times so there is no mixed signals over control.